LL7: Social/Emotional Development-The Power of Vulnerability (Brene' Brown)

On the TED Talks video, Brene' Brown discussed on how the power of vulnerability. She starts off by telling the audience saying that she takes an interest in messy topics by cleaning them up and telling them like they are. Most majority of the stories being told to her are from disconnection. What she means by that is this: Stories are told by shame, fear, guilt, and doubt. The two main disconnections from out of that are shame and doubt. Brown brings out those two things because of the fact that most people have experienced them at some point or another. It can be either when they were small or in their teenage to adult years.

So the question we must ask ourselves when dealing with children of all levels in life is this: How her information can be used to nurture positive development of children?

The three things Brene' Brown made mention of are the following: worthiness, courage, and vulnerability. To know what each of them mean, let's find out the meaning of each in order to get a better understanding of what Brown was in reference to and about.

Worthiness-a strong sense of love and belonging (whole-hearted people)

Courage-telling the story with your whole heart (keep in mind that this word comes from the suffix word cour, which means "heart").

Vulnerability-vulnerable made beautiful made necessary.

To go further into detail with the question, the speaker goes into detail concerning her personal struggles with vulnerability of which took her a year to find out and learn about. Brown said she learned some things about ourselves being vulnerable. She had to come to conclusions on some things in which we had not thought about in reality, but when you get by yourself and think about it, every bit of what Brene' Brown is putting to us is the God-honest truth!! So here they are:

*We're numb to vulnerability by being in debt, obese and adult cohort

*We live in a vulnerable world (of which is true because we do!)

*We feel miserable and be numb to everything

*We make the uncertain CERTAIN (Once something has been said, it's the final word. Nothing more, nothing less!)

Here are ways in which Brown gave us (especially as parents) steps on what to do and what not to do so that our child or children won't feel bad about themselves:

*Have children to know that we are imperfect beings, wired for struggle, but at the same time worthy of love and belonging.

*Quit pretending that what we do doesn't affect people around us (because it does)!

*Need to say "I'm sorry. We'll fix it."

*Allow ourselves as parents to be seen and love with our whole hearts, practice gratitude by leaning into joy.

*MORE IMPORTANTLY, have them to believe this: "I am enough!"